Develop the ability to resist your nosiness in the personal affairs of others or from their private lives. People may come and talk to you about their private life for advice. As soon as you understand their problem,you do not need to know the details. Speak to them about principles and how to abide in principles. If hatred is involved, you do not need to hear all the forms and expressions of hatred . Speak about then necessity of love,respect, Compassion and understanding.
People may come to you to justify their attitudes or position. Do not justify them or condemn them; speak about principles and let them try to appropriate their lives to these principles.
If they are ugly,emphasize beauty. If they are full of ill-will , emphasize good will. If they are full of lies, emphasize the necessity for truth without taking any side because you cannot be one- sided.
You must never put your nose in the personal lives of others and in their private affairs. If you suspect that someone is really dangerous,you cab report to the authorities. Beyond this, you must respect the freedom of others.
Nosiness leads you to totalitarianism, involves you in the problem of others , and awakens in you the spirit of using others for your selfish interests.
A spiritual leader must impress the minds of people around him with the idea that he is interested in their soul and Not personality life. This does not mean that people must have a double nature- a soul nature and a personality nature apart from each other. It means that the spiritual leader is not interested in the sexual problems,financial problems, housing and eating problems or social problems of his people,but he is interested in how to raise the consciousness of his people to higher levels of values and principles and make them able to live according to the contacted values and principles.
-Torkon Saraydarian,Leadership Volume 1
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