My Teacher used to tell us to be careful when we praise someone or flatter someone. We may build an image in him for which he is not ready.
Sometimes we do not understand the difference between encouragement and praise.
In encouragement we stimulate the potentials that are in a person. In praising we build an image, the potentials of which are probably not active yet.
There is also the other side of this story. A person, because of his glamors and vanities, tries to build an image for which he is not ready. The Teacher or the leader or the father or mother tries to warn him that he should not build an image that he cannot justify or bear.
This is also a very difficult job because you are hated when you build an image that surpasses the person’s reality and when you prevent the person who tries to build an image for which he is not ready.
How much tactfulness is necessary so as not to awaken hatred or complicate the progress of people with all your good intentions!
-Torkom Saraydarian, The Mystery of Self Image
Sometimes we do not understand the difference between encouragement and praise.
In encouragement we stimulate the potentials that are in a person. In praising we build an image, the potentials of which are probably not active yet.
There is also the other side of this story. A person, because of his glamors and vanities, tries to build an image for which he is not ready. The Teacher or the leader or the father or mother tries to warn him that he should not build an image that he cannot justify or bear.
This is also a very difficult job because you are hated when you build an image that surpasses the person’s reality and when you prevent the person who tries to build an image for which he is not ready.
How much tactfulness is necessary so as not to awaken hatred or complicate the progress of people with all your good intentions!
-Torkom Saraydarian, The Mystery of Self Image
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