When I was young my Father told me a story which impressed me very much. A boy fell in love with a very pretty Italian girl. The boy said to the girl, “You know I love you. Will you marry me?” The girl looked at the boy, and said, “You are really very nice, but I have decided that I want to marry a violinist. If you learn the violin and can play before the public as a great musician, then I will marry you.”
The girl challenged the boy to demonstrate his love with his creativity. She wanted him to be worthy of her love. He studied violin for nine years and became one of the great concert violinists in Rome. Then the woman married him. That man was so grateful because he realized she had sublimated and transformed
him. She had made him into somebody when he had been nothing.
Where are those women who try to make men great through their love? Women are afraid that if they do not do whatever men want them to, the men will go with other women. That is usually what happens, we know; but those women who challenge men to
raise their level so that they meet at a higher point of love will be more successful in their love.
Those who love each other must say to each other, “First finish college. Prove that you are somebody to love me.” They must present a vision and make their lovers aspire toward it. Women and men must transform each other through their love so that
they feel proud to be with each other.
The girl challenged the boy to demonstrate his love with his creativity. She wanted him to be worthy of her love. He studied violin for nine years and became one of the great concert violinists in Rome. Then the woman married him. That man was so grateful because he realized she had sublimated and transformed
him. She had made him into somebody when he had been nothing.
Where are those women who try to make men great through their love? Women are afraid that if they do not do whatever men want them to, the men will go with other women. That is usually what happens, we know; but those women who challenge men to
raise their level so that they meet at a higher point of love will be more successful in their love.
Those who love each other must say to each other, “First finish college. Prove that you are somebody to love me.” They must present a vision and make their lovers aspire toward it. Women and men must transform each other through their love so that
they feel proud to be with each other.
-Torkom Saraydarian, Sex, Family and the Woman in Society
